1095 Days of Being a Widow
Lorena
Whelp. Today is the End of Year Three/Start of Year Four of being a widow. I say that not in a “oh, feel sorry for me” way but in a…
Souvenirs
728 Days of Being a Widow
Or is it 727? This is a leap year so I guess there’s an extra day in there… that seems weird. Anyway, Monday, March 11th, will be two years. People…
It was twenty years ago today, Sgt Pepper taught the band to play
If you would have asked me twenty years ago what I thought I might be writing, looking back on twenty years of marriage, talking about “my first year-and-change of being…
Haldeman/Conyers burial/memorial celebration
When it came time, I knew I wanted to bury Tim’s ashes at Prairie Creek Conservation Cemetery. I didn’t know when – there were a few issues that meant we…
The one about a triple-header funeral
How do you inter your loved ones when you don’t have a family cemetery, strong ties to a particular religion, you don’t have children who might want a gravesite to…
Why am I writing all this stuff about Tim, anyway?
If y’all haven’t already been asking yourselves why it is exactly that I’m rehashing all of this, why I’m rewriting it, tomorrow’s post will really make you wonder. Why? I…
Louder, for the people in the back
Up and down this road I goSkippin’ and dodgin’From a 44 Facebook is often an echo chamber; because you can curate the list of who hears what you have to…
When loss sneaks in and makes a home in your heart
I want to make sweeping statements like, “the first time you lose someone you love, it teaches you how to lose everyone else” or “the first time you lose someone…
Well, *that* wrecked my head
Warning: this is a sad story about a sad animal and spoilers, it didn’t live. If that sort of thing shatters your heart into a million pieces like it does…
A Long December
Today would have been my dad’s 77th birthday. He died two weeks after his 60th. It used to be, growing up, Bill’s birthday, then a week later my dad’s birthday,…
You just call out my name
Do you have siblings? I don’t. I’m an only child (not for lack of my parents trying, mom, I’m sorry about your loss). I don’t know what it’s like to…
The Practicality of Preparing
The last few months, I’ve been helping my aunt and uncle decide what to do with their manuscripts, correspondence, papers, and library. They’re not planning on leaving the party any…