Question of the Week: Spirituality

If you are presently attending church, how did you come to join it?

I’m a heathen, so I’m definitely interested in this answer. Especially if it’s the same church your parents went to, you went there as a child, and now you go with your children.


  1. Katherine

    Whoooo – that’s a good question. I was raised going to church with my family every weekend – both of my parents were very involved in many aspects of the church. When I left home to venture out on my own, I did find that going to church helped me to stay grounded – kind of just my own quiet time every week. Now married with 3 kids, this was definitely something that we discussed. DH was VERY involved in his church growing up (different flavor than mine, but still…. you know, pretty similar in may ways) and then after he lost his dad, he never went back. He wanted to let our kids choose their own path as adults, but for me, it was important at they have some focal point in their life other than family. I must say, that it has been really good experience for them all and I like the effect that church has had on them all. My Sarah however, being the fabulous creature that she is, entered in to REGULAR discussions last year with her Sunday School teacher whenever her teacher would imply that there was ANY one right way. It ended up being a wonderful relationship which continues to be mutually respectful. All that being said however, should any / all of them choose a different path as adults, I will support their choice so long as they are loving and caring adults. They actually have a great role model in their daddy – someone who doesn’t go to the big box on Sunday’s, but is one of the most fabulous people they know. Hugs heathen – love you!!

  2. Marie Stanley

    I left the church when I got that ” only our way is the right way ” answer. Plus, I never could believe that humans are naughty by nature. I believe we are good even when we mess up.

  3. Alice Haldeman

    I’m quite spiritual but that has nothing to do with attending church. The religion in which I was raised excommunicated me for marrying outside the church so I never went back except for an occasional funeral. My mother’s family were all Methodists (she converted to Catholicism to marry my father). That and the fact that your godfather’s parents were Methodists and expected a baptism to take place led us to have you baptized in the Mt Vernon Place United Methodist Church. (I also liked the idea of that church being built on the site where Francis Scott Key wrote the Star Spangled Banner.) While in Balto we became fairly active in that church and even joined a Methodist church in the first town we settled in after coming to Fla. But I got too busy trying to work full time and finish school and had to give that up. But organized religion doesn’t really enter in to my spirituality at this time.

  4. Joe Haldeman

    Mother and Dad always wanted your father and me to go to church, but didn’t go, themselves, except sometimes on Easter morning. Sometimes the sunrise service. They pretty transparently wanted to get the kids out of the house for awhile.

    When I was fourteen or fifteen I realized church was a safe place to look for girls; at sixteen I found that the church parking lot was a good place for necking and (when lucky) petting. If the cops busted you there they just told you to run along.

    Some time in there I realized I was a total atheist, though I was never “evangelical” about it. If other people wanted to believe all that fantastical hooey, fine with me. I had a couple of pals who shared my attitudes; we would sit around and drink Cokes and laugh about the sheep without really considering that there might be something to it.

    First couple of years in college I flirted with religion in a kind of intellectual way. I had a philosophy professor who made a powerful case for agnosticism with acceptance, which gave me a couple of years’ softness toward believers.

    I liked zen Buddhism, and still feel a connection to it. You don’t have to “believe” anything, and the universe doesn’t care one way or the other. Respect other people’s rights and sympathize with their desires, or try to.

    (If someone desires carnal knowledge of a chicken, well, I’d just as soon not know about it. Maybe if the chicken enjoys it, too.)

    I guess I’m still okay with anything that doesn’t harm other people or animals. Corporate entities not included.

    Unca Joe

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